Del Tackett

by Del Tackett


7 Threats in Our Times: (#7) The Attack Upon the Biblical Family

Of all the social institutions designed by God, I suppose none is under greater attack than the family. This shouldn’t surprise us, for destroying relationships is the ultimate scheme of Satan and it is here we find the most intimate. Indeed, it seems that the entirety of the world, the flesh and the enemy are today aligned against the biblical family. And the family is the heart of a culture.

If you pierce the family, you pierce its society.

To understand the depth and immensity of this attack, we must go back to the “beginning”, as Jesus put it:

 Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? Matthew 19:3-5

Jesus was responding to an insincere question that was intended to trap Him, but it was a question about marriage, so He took them back to the creation of male and female to answer it. And, it is in that creation narrative that God reveals His purpose for creating them this way. Adam was to “be united to his wife” becoming “one flesh”. Malachi reiterates this purpose:

Did he not make them [husband and wife] one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. Malachi 2:15

What is drawn from these passages is radical in our culture today, maybe even fighting words, for it not only angers the culture around us, but angers even some Christians.

The reason God made “male” and “female” was for the purpose of bringing them together into a divine unity, a “oneness” that brings our thoughts to the unity within the Triune God. And it was this unity of the male and female that would bring forth godly fruit. We certainly are not animals, but we see the same purpose of God for them as well: after creating the animals male and female, He charged them to be fruitful, multiply and fill the earth. This is the same language given to Adam and Eve after they were created. And it is here that we find the fundamental purpose for God creating us male and female, rather than some androgynous being. Any understanding of human sexuality outside of this context leads to serious error. In contrast, today we believe that one’s sexuality stands on its own and becomes, in large part, the essence of my identity. This is the same message heard in Helen Reddy’s famous song:

I am strong! I am invincible! I am woman! 

Reddy’s view is one that has become ubiquitous throughout our culture today. It has severed human sexuality completely from the context and the design of the family. The prevailing view is that the individual and their sexuality is a private, personal and fundamental aspect of their identity and it has nothing to do with marriage or family. 

The biblical worldview has no place for this notion. Nowhere does the Scripture lead us to think that your human sexuality is the essence of your identity.

And when we disconnect human sexuality from its divine context, we then begin to think we can redefine not only marriage and family, but also human sexuality. Ergo, Miley Cyrus can declare that she is “pansexual”, believing she can be male or female or anything in between, anytime she chooses. Men and women, now even little boys and girls, can declare themselves something other than their biological sexuality. We can make up our own personal pronouns and, in the most egregious of examples, get our dads and moms put in jail if they don’t address us as such. Why? Because we selfishly declare our sexuality to be “the essence of who I am!” This sexual disconnect also degrades sex and cause it to descend into nothing more than a commercial product or a casual hook-up and nothing more. I can bend it, mold it, use it, exploit it… all for my own pleasure and purposes.

Anything, therefore, that attacks human sexuality, is ultimately an attack upon the family.

When Marx and Engels declared “Abolish the family!” their worldview reflected the heart of Satan’s strategy to destroy relationships because that attacks the very heart of the nature of God. This includes the destruction of every other social institution because they also carry the relational design of God. But the family is the headwaters for them all. It is the biblical family that produces children with a biblical work ethic. It produces the hard workers and ethical employees and business owners that make ethical products. It is the biblical family that produces a righteous citizenry and statesmen who lead with integrity. It is the biblical family that produces a moral society and all that it stands for.

So, destroy the biblical family, and you destroy its culture.

When the Black Lives Matter website went up and its leaders announced they were “well trained Marxists”, it wasn’t surprising to see “abolish the family” in a prominent place. Although it has since been taken down for public relations reasons, it remains this worldview’s fundamental objective. 

Yet, one may argue that they don’t really have to do anything except sit back and watch, because we are destroying the family ourselves. 

--Marriage is increasingly in disfavor. Hollywood has made having a baby without a husband fashionable. The majority of babies born in our culture are now born to single women. 

--Movies and television, music and media, all present sex outside marriage as the preferred norm. Today, the traditional family is almost always presented in a negative light or not presented at all.

-- Pornography is now mainstream. It distorts and destroys the beauty and intimacy of divine marriage, yet it is rampant in our society. 90% of young men in the U.S. watch porn videos regularly. The U.S. is awash in pornography and we flood the world with it. 90% of the world’s pornography is produced and exported from the U.S. Of the top 15 websites accessed in the world, three are porn sites. In a recent survey of young people to assess their view of things that were “wrong” to do, using pornography was way down on the list. “Not Recycling” was rated as a much greater evil.

--Welfare policy encourages women to have babies without marriage. The new tax laws encourage people to not get married.

--The Supreme Court (1971) declared it “right” for a woman to kill her offspring. And over 2,000 babies die every day on the altar of personal peace. 

--It is almost impossible to assess the damage to marriages and families due to addictions. Few families are not torn apart in some way by alcohol, drug and other addictions, including sexual addiction.

--Feminism (as an “ism”) is destroying both the Virtuous Female and the Noble Male. Indeed, the young male in our culture today is overwhelmingly pressed by one mandate: "You will be accepted only if you become more feminine in character, thought and deed. Your maleness is toxic, out of favor, and you will be rejected unless you conform." In fact, it may be accurate to concede that the overall bent of our culture is deeply feministic.

--And, of course, there is the rapid and penetrating attack upon human sexuality. Homosexuality, bi-sexuality, pan-sexuality and trans-sexuality are all presented to us as normal and even desirable. Not long ago, I was addressing a large Christian school and had an opportunity to meet with the elementary grade school faculty. When I asked them what the number one issue was they had to deal with? Gender identity. Their kids were struggling with it because the cultural message that they “need to discover their true gender identity” is being pounded into them from every media quarter.

Don’t be fooled. This attack is ubiquitous. It is like an evil smoke that silently slips under our doors, penetrating everything, everywhere.

Yet, the clear blessing of God’s design remains. Nearly all of what we would call “positive” social indicators are related to a strong family life, from emotional wellness to psychological wellness to social health. Intact families provide the primary discriminator to keep someone out of poverty. Gang members rarely come from intact families, yet it is estimated that 80% of all crime is gang-related. What would our society look like if we were a culture of intact families living in the blessing of little poverty and little crime? I grew up in such a place. It was extremely abnormal to find a broken or dysfunctional family. No one locked their doors. No one was afraid to walk the roads or streets at night. And yet, as though we have some sort of suicidal wish, all of the major players in our culture today are working to destroy the family, from the media to the State to the subtle worldview messages that permeate our marketing world, like the Progressive Insurance ads that seek to drive a wedge between children and parents.

I am reminded of the warning God gave to Israel when they were brought into a land flowing with milk and honey. Assembled before two mountains, they were given the choice of either blessings or curses, depending upon whether or not they would choose to follow God.

It certainly seems as if we are pressed today with the same choice, for nothing but curses await us along the road we are travelling.

How do we live in a culture like this, dear Remnant? Stand strong and do not lose hope. Stay true to God’s Word. Be the Virtuous Female or the Noble Male. Concentrate on building and nurturing your family with a fierce determination, for the attacks of the enemy here are ever-present and relentless.

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  • Jo Robbins

    Jo Robbins

    Thank you for truth and clarity.
  • Sarah Baker

    Sarah Baker

    I’m concerned that the standard for “Christian” marriages is low. Many I know are still married, yes, but the quality of that union falka far below what the Bible presents as a picture of marital oneness in Christ, and the impact on the lives of family members is great - many illnesses(especially among the wives and mothers) and misery as there is a commitment to stay together but not a commitment to really having a godly marriage. Especially the men are lost and seemingly unable to rise above the status society has put on them and truly spiritually lead their families. Do you have any insights or helps for those who are wanting to live God-honoringly in their marriage but realize they are not and have no idea how to get there? Is just not getting divorced really a victory?!?
  • Doug Madison

    Doug Madison

    Whew. Well said Del.
  • Teddy Craig

    Teddy Craig

    And, so, with an even greater determination than before we press on toward Bethel and El-Bethel. Purging our lives of all idols we only trust in #Yah, we're washed daily by partaking in His Word, and we're clothed in His righteousness alone! #RaptureReady
  • Wayne Widdowson

    Wayne Widdowson

    Excellent Del. A good reminder for the start of 2022. God bless and looking for to your first webinar for the New Year.
  • Laura Newbaker

    Laura Newbaker

    Great article. I am often impressed in my heart to pray for the marriages of all people, especially those of the Christian brother and sister. My heart hurts to see what even Christians will allow for the world to put in their minds of what is okay and what is not. How Satan tears us apart by putting thoughts into the mind of one or the other partner to cause divisions. We disciples must unite together in earnest prayer over marriages and families and do whatever we can as individuals to express to any young adult or child the importance of marriages and what the bible says about it. Even if that child is not sure they even want to believe in God or not. I had this conversation with an exchange student who comes from a culture and family who could care less about marriage. I spoke of the importance the whole school year she was with me. And with her involvement in my church each week, she also learned by seeing what marriage is about. There is so much in this article that needs to be addressed in our society today. We really need to reach out to those who attend our congregations with encouragement. We never know who is sitting next to use and to what level they engage in God's Holy Word, and so we need to be constantly vigilant and active, seeking those who may not show the fruit, but claim to have made Christ their Lord and Savior. I am finding many people in my community that come to church, attend bible studies and still do not understand the importance of reading the Word every day with prayer for direction from the Holy Spirit to reveal to them what it means. Some people pray the prayer but because they have not first made their hearts right before God, they cannot hear or understand. There is so much we need to learn, to understand; we need to have more understanding of prayer and how to pray and what types of prayers are available to us to use, of how and when it is appropriate to use them and then to understand we need to have a relevance, of being in "awe" of our God. To take it seriously. The prayers, the marriage, our families and the power we hold in Christ Jesus. He gives us great power and we need to use it in prayer over our families and over the whole world. Thank you again Del, great article. I am afraid, I could go on all day with this one article....but I must read on.




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